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Whether or not it occurs subconsciously or not, the photographs we see day-after-day have an effect on how we view ourselves. Seeing ourselves within the media is what makes issues relatable. It is what makes us love our favourite music, favourite present, and favourite celebrities. However within the age of social media, the brand new regular is getting our inspiration and sense of belonging from the individuals and influencers we observe. As a Black girl, particularly as a dark-skinned Black girl, it may possibly turn into formidable to see the “accepted” concept of magnificence, hair, and our bodies be the precise reverse of who you might be.
Accounts that solely embrace the normal commonplace of magnificence and have an absence of variety created a scarcity of illustration as I scrolled, and it was one thing I, sadly, hadn’t observed earlier than this yr. I adopted my shut buddies, manufacturers, and influencers I appreciated who occurred to cross my path on Instagram. Nevertheless, when shelter-in-place orders hit, like thousands and thousands of others, I discovered myself staying at residence and on social media double (possibly even triple) the standard quantity whereas merely attempting to remain related. It was then that I observed one thing just a little odd about my timeline. The place had been all of the dark-skinned Black ladies? I already adopted a couple of inspirational Black ladies in my area of journalism and my favourite Black musicians, however apart from individuals I knew personally, there have been only a few dark-skinned Black ladies I used to be seeing day-after-day, and that was hurting my self-image. With out even realizing it, the insecurities about my hair and my physique had been amplified as a result of I wasn’t seeing ladies who seemed like me, despite the fact that I spent a lot time on the app. In a method, Instagram started including extra stress to my life — on prime of every little thing else that was happening on the earth — and that ought to by no means be the case.
Being a Black girl is sensible, empowering, and laborious, and thru this experiment with Instagram, I’ve discovered many assets to assist me via it.
So, I made a decision to alter that. I adopted style, journey, and wellness influencers, in addition to artists, activists, and writers — all Black creatives and all Black ladies. After following these superb ladies for a couple of months now, I can say that it is modified my perspective of social media and has had essentially the most constructive influence on my self-image and self-confidence. Black ladies are stunning! Though behind my thoughts I already knew this, having a day by day reminder of ladies like me thriving is an inspiration.
I’ve had inspiration for pure hairstyles to strive (which hasn’t occurred in years), I do know extra make-up manufacturers that embrace and work for my pores and skin tone, and I do know the Black-owned manufacturers to purchase from to interchange manufacturers that I can now not assist resulting from their views (or loud silence) on essential matters equivalent to Black Lives Matter. Being a Black girl is sensible, empowering, and laborious, and thru this experiment with Instagram, I’ve discovered many assets to assist me via it. Socially conscious yoga and meditation hosted by Black ladies, psychological well being assets particularly for us, and influential ideas and concepts created by us. Whereas some individuals or manufacturers I adopted earlier than could also be nice allies, they will not ever totally perceive what it is wish to be me. Following these ladies felt like a private connection and a consolation I did not notice I used to be lacking, particularly whereas the injustices towards Black ladies had been being amplified however nonetheless ignored.
Though it may be the supply of loads of hate, social media will also be a spot to “escape” and keep related. Ideally, it should not add any stressors to your life. So, what’s my recommendation? Should you discover extra stress than enjoyment utilizing social media, unfollow and block that negativity instantly (there’s additionally by no means a incorrect time to delete the app for some time). Make your timeline a spot of inspiration and illustration. Fill it with belongings you’d need to hear, buddies you’d need to have in real-life, and a spot with well being and wellness assets particularly for you and ladies such as you. Belief me, seeing your individual ideas and feelings shared by others means just a little extra when it comes from somebody who simply will get it.
The saying “illustration issues” rings true. For me, it is much more crucial to see ladies who appear to be me each day and not in traumatizing conditions. Sure, it is essential to remain conscious and updated on the information and what we as Black ladies are going via in the present day, nevertheless it’s additionally an act of self-care to have photos of Black ladies embracing our options, watering our home crops, and easily residing life day-after-day.